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Seeitnowsorted

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I’m WFH - day in a thick furry fleecy hoodie with the heating on, cannot believe I was sweating cobbs 48 hours ago and I wasn’t abroad!

Cats have finished their zoomies for now (oh and there was comments from a neighbours relative when I got back as if I’d forgotten my cat that died 6 months ago (never) and distain in the tone of voice because I’d got 2 rather than 1.......ok, whatever)
 

Fin

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Hope it goes well all things considered today Fin.
Sending love @Fin

Hope today for all of us is a better day. My mother used to say:

'I'm feeling better than yesterday, but worse than tomorrow'

That doesn't look right in English, in German it sounds right.

Thank you ❤

Despite horrendous weather and a lot flooding in the area this morning, the sun came out when we arrived at the crematorium. The service was lovely despite the restrictions.

Just as I wrote the above, it has turned pitch black and is belting down which was actually the forecast for the full day.
 

Nelly

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Thank you, Muse. My husband is still in hospital, he was transferred yesterday to a teaching hospital that specialises in cardiac surgery which we are keeping fingers crossed will go ahead on Thursday.
Oh Hotsoapywater, you must be so worried, I’m sending you a big hug, I’ll tell you about my hubby and what we went through from November 2019 to January 2020, here goes.

November 2019, thought hubby had a chest infection, went to GP, was given antibiotics, come back if doesn’t improve.

Didn’t improve, found it hard to breath, couldn’t lay down, couldn’t sleep, due to trouble breathing.

Was put on different medication, for racing heart, blood pressure and other things.

Still had trouble breathing.

Back to GP, sent to hospital for tests, arteries all clear, had more tests.

Found he has 2 leaking valves, heart enlarged with with holes in both sides of the heart.

December went to see specialist at St Thomas’s, who told us that if we had come to him in 6 months, there would be nothing he could have done and he would not be here within a year.😭

Said he critical urgent and would do open heart surgery within 8 weeks.

Had to go to dentist to make sure his teeth were healthy, all good.

He looked so unwell, he couldn’t do anything even walking from the living room to the toilet, left him breathless, it was heartbreaking to watch him trying to breath.

He was given 10% chance of not coming back while in surgery.

Was given date for surgery 27th January.

Had open heart surgery by the brilliant heart surgeon Mr Avlonitis (who we were told by other medical staff that he was the best in the world) I went to the hospital with him, when they came to get him for the surgery, we said our goodbyes, I was so scared, he went in 1 lift, I went in the other lift, looking at him thinking this could be the last time I would see him, how I held it together, I will never know, but I did.

10 hours later, our son phoned hospital, he had just come up for surgery, all went well, I will admit I cried for ages, the relief was tremendous.

He was in a lot of pain, but 7 days later was discharged and back home.

Since coming home, he breathing is back to normal, he is back to his old self before heart trouble, he is very proud that he belongs to “The Zipper” club.

Hotsoapywater, I hope the surgery goes well, he will soon be home, be back to normal, your husband will be a new man, he will have discomfort when he coughs, his nurse will give him a rolled up towel to hold against his chest when he coughs, to make it less painful, my hubby named his Betty 😁

My hubby had a great view from his ward, looking out over The Thames, the doctors and nurses were great, all friendly and are there for you as well as your husband, I cannot thank them enough, we are so lucky we have the NHS.

I hope my story helps you, sending ❤❤ love Nelly. X
 
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Hotsoapywater

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Oh Hotsoapywater, you must be so worried, I’m sending you a big hug, I’ll tell you about my hubby and what we went through from November 2019 to January 2020, here goes.

November 2019, thought hubby had a chest infection, went to GP, was given antibiotics, come back if doesn’t improve.

Didn’t improve, found it hard to breath, couldn’t lay down, couldn’t sleep, due to trouble breathing.

Was put on different medication, for racing heart, blood pressure and other things.

Still had trouble breathing.

Back to GP, sent to hospital for tests, arteries all clear, had more tests.

Found he has 2 leaking valves, heart enlarged with with holes in both sides of the heart.

December went to see specialist at St Thomas’s, who told us that if we had come to him in 6 months, there would be nothing he could have done and he would not be here within a year.😭

Said he critical urgent and would do open heart surgery within 8 weeks.

Had to go to dentist to make sure his teeth were healthy, all good.

He looked so unwell, he couldn’t do anything even walking from the living room to the toilet, left him breathless, it was heartbreaking to watch him trying to breath.

He was given 10% chance of not coming back while in surgery.

Was given date for surgery 27th January.

Had open heart surgery by the brilliant heart surgeon Mr Avlonitis (who we were told by other medical staff that he was the best in the world) I went to the hospital with him, when they came to get him for the surgery, we said our goodbyes, I was so scared, he went in 1 lift, I went in the other lift, looking at him thinking this could be the last time I would see him, how I held it together, I will never know, but I did.

10 hours later, our son phoned hospital, he had just come up for surgery, all went well, I will admit I cried for ages, the relief was tremendous.

He was in a lot of pain, but 7 days later was discharged and back home.

Since coming home, he breathing is back to normal, he is back to his old self before heart trouble, he is very proud that he belongs to “The Zipper” club.

Hotsoapywater, I hope the surgery goes well, he will soon be home, be back to normal, your husband will be a new man, he will have discomfort when he coughs, his nurse will give him a rolled up towel to hold against his chest when he coughs, to make it less painful, my hubby named his Betty 😁

My hubby had a great view from his ward, looking out over The Thames, the doctors and nurses were great, all friendly and are there for you as well as your husband, I cannot thank them enough, we are so lucky we have the NHS.

I hope my story helps you, sending ❤❤ love Nelly. X
Thanks, so much Nelly. That's made me plop tears all over my crotchet.

A decade we have been waiting for this. He has had stents, but the unstable angina stalks him. It has taken a lot of stamping our feet. Our daughter is a nurse and she has fought the system for him since she was 22. A Syrian heart specialist now has looked at his case notes and cannot believe he has been left as he has. We knew something was being missed.

Now it is a case of ensuring his blood pressure is stable and they'll operate on Thursday all being well.

Thank you so much. So glad your husband is back with you and his quality of life is good. That benefits you all.

Hugs back.
 

Nelly

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Thanks, so much Nelly. That's made me plop tears all over my crotchet.

A decade we have been waiting for this. He has had stents, but the unstable angina stalks him. It has taken a lot of stamping our feet. Our daughter is a nurse and she has fought the system for him since she was 22. A Syrian heart specialist now has looked at his case notes and cannot believe he has been left as he has. We knew something was being missed.

Now it is a case of ensuring his blood pressure is stable and they'll operate on Thursday all being well.

Thank you so much. So glad your husband is back with you and his quality of life is good. That benefits you all.

Hugs back.
Sorry about making you plop tears over your crochet, I was filling up as well, as I was writing, especially the lift part, that bit really pulls at my heart strings.

Your husband is in good hands, before you know it he will be home.

I am so shocked at the length of time he has had this problem, it really is unbelievable, you have a good heart specialist, he will put things right.❤
 
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Hotsoapywater

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Sorry about making you plop tears over your crochet, I was filling up as well, as I was writing, especially the lift part, that bit really pulls at my heart strings.

Your husband is in good hands, before you know it he will be home.

I am so shocked at the length of time he has had this problem, it really is unbelievable, you have a good heart specialist, he will put things right.❤
It is about time. At least we did have the option to take him home to Austria but we would have had to go for three months before or he would.

I just find it so painful here with the NHS (and they're my ex employer) and I always see it from the inside out. Red tape, risk, all poor strategies that the NHS limps along on. This heaet surgeon is switched on, and just incredibly sharp.

Coming in late to the party here. All the best to your husband @Hotsoapywater :)

Big hugs to @Fin too and anyone else feeling shitty.
 

LilyLangtry

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I’ve just caught up too but yesterday, I did think about you, Fin, and the day before about you, Divgirl, and now I’m thinking of Nelly and Hotsoapywater and MrH - and sending all of you my prayers and wishes.

This pandemic makes even the most difficult things even harder. Immeasurably so. In normal times, we’d at least be able to sit with our loved ones in hospital and hold their hand and see how they are for ourselves. Not at the moment. And it’s that waiting-without-knowing-or-seeing that’s so hard.

Mr Langtry fell backwards down the stairs a couple of weeks ago - from the top of the stairs, so quite a long way down - and was in hospital with significant head injuries. I couldn’t go with him in the ambulance and I couldn’t go and see him. I was completely dependent on whatever information I could get by telephone from the nurses, and even then, they constantly contradicted each other. I felt so helpless.

But.

At times like this, the NHS is at its best. Your husband is now in good hands, Hotsoapywater, and is being treated at last. Try and hold on to that. I know this is such an anxious time for you.

Mr Langtry’s nurses might have contradicted each other all over the place but his doctors knew what they were doing. He’s home. He has mobility and cognitive problems but we are getting sterling support from our GP and the community nurses. He’s very grumpy (to be fair, he was pretty grumpy before he fell, so not much change there then 😁) but every day brings a little improvement. He’s just made me a cup of coffee - trust me, this is a milestone - and later, he wants to take out the recycling. I’ll be hovering around like a worried mother hen but he’s determined to do a little more every day and get well. MrH will too.
 

Nelly

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I’ve just caught up too but yesterday, I did think about you, Fin, and the day before about you, Divgirl, and now I’m thinking of Nelly and Hotsoapywater and MrH - and sending all of you my prayers and wishes.

This pandemic makes even the most difficult things even harder. Immeasurably so. In normal times, we’d at least be able to sit with our loved ones in hospital and hold their hand and see how they are for ourselves. Not at the moment. And it’s that waiting-without-knowing-or-seeing that’s so hard.

Mr Langtry fell backwards down the stairs a couple of weeks ago - from the top of the stairs, so quite a long way down - and was in hospital with significant head injuries. I couldn’t go with him in the ambulance and I couldn’t go and see him. I was completely dependent on whatever information I could get by telephone from the nurses, and even then, they constantly contradicted each other. I felt so helpless.

But.

At times like this, the NHS is at its best. Your husband is now in good hands, Hotsoapywater, and is being treated at last. Try and hold on to that. I know this is such an anxious time for you.

Mr Langtry’s nurses might have contradicted each other all over the place but his doctors knew what they were doing. He’s home. He has mobility and cognitive problems but we are getting sterling support from our GP and the community nurses. He’s very grumpy (to be fair, he was pretty grumpy before he fell, so not much change there then 😁) but every day brings a little improvement. He’s just made me a cup of coffee - trust me, this is a milestone - and later, he wants to take out the recycling. I’ll be hovering around like a worried mother hen but he’s determined to do a little more every day and get well. MrH will too.
Sending hugs to you LilyLangtree, I hope your husband gets better everyday.❤❤

One thing I do know is us women are made of strong stuff, underneath it all we may feel lost, lonely and afraid, but we are still strong.💪❤
 
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Hotsoapywater

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Hi Lily, thank you for your lovely post. I'm feeling better now I know something is being done. Whioe it is difficult that we can't go to see him, I'm content that we have regular contact and the consultant did speak to me and the children yesterday. He was superb.

Mr Soapy is a grumpy bastard too. :ROFLMAO: Glad to hear that Mr Lily is on the mend.

The excellent news I've had is my son is flying home tomorrow as his employer has given him a month off. Now that has cheered me up.

Thank you for your kindness.
 

Otters Rule

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Thank you ❤

Despite horrendous weather and a lot flooding in the area this morning, the sun came out when we arrived at the crematorium. The service was lovely despite the restrictions.

Just as I wrote the above, it has turned pitch black and is belting down which was actually the forecast for the full day.
When I was young we used to call those unexpected but timely breaks in the weather, pathways to heaven. I don't know why but suspect my grandparents viewed it something like the parting of the waves. 🙂 I still find it comforting in a way even if the moments are brief.
 

Gavlar

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There have been a few days this week where I have dipped considerably. Just the sameness of life at the moment, the cancellation of holidays, everything seems a bit pointless. It’s a strange time.
This is me. Sameness is getting on my nerves at the minute. I’ve got lots of interesting work to do, plenty of jobs at home to do and have made tons of progress on things since March but everything feels like a complete drag right now.

I don’t have a fantastic social life as a single parent who moved here two years ago but I’m missing going out now.
 

Villanelle

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Have had a shit day today, trying to home school, do team meetings via Microsoft whilst picking up the slack of a lazy fucking colleague, then completed an application form-nearly finished & it went pear shaped & I couldn't fix it so had to start all over again & dunno why I'm bothering cos probably be the usual 'look good but lack of experience' blah, blah, blah. So I had a little tantrum & a little cry then went for a walk to attempt to perk myself up...
Think I may need chocolate later.
Hey ho, tomorrow will be better I'm sure-least it will be closer to the weekend.
 

Otters Rule

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I'm fed up. My job and the environment I work in are going to be so fundamentally changed going forward that I can't see where the joy will be - the aspects that made it almost perfect will be no more. (I might be proven wrong, but I don't think it likely; I'll just have to go with the flow and see how it all pans out.)

I know I'm incredibly lucky to still have a job (for the time-being at least) - just having a little moan.
 
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