You were very young, and knew no better than to ask the advice of your elders and (as you thought then) betters.When I was nineteen, I met and fell in love with a young man who had many good qualities. We became engaged. However, he had no money. He was confident that he would be successful in his profession, but although honourable, it was very uncertain, even dangerous. My father disapproved of our engagement, and my godmother, whom I greatly love and respect, also disapproved. Feeling unable to go against their advice (I was very young), I broke off the engagement. Was I wrong?
You're older now, and painfully aware that some of your elders are vain, shallow and self-absorbed. Even the best of them can be made monkeys of by circumstance. What can I say? Your godmother tried...
Still, you never know. Keep your spirits up and things may work out for you in the end. ?